I never did get around to those Breakdancing lessons. The closest thing to it was our friend demonstrating the correct way to ‘Roger Rabbit’ at a dinner party we had on Saturday night. People sure love to show off their 80’s moves when you get a little alcohol in them.
Over dinner a strange topic came up that had me in deep thought for the rest of the weekend. When I lived in Newport Beach (Balboa) just after college I had two roommates that were 'dancers' -code name for strippers (which was very cool at the time for a ‘non-frat’ guy just out of Art School), and 2 neighbors were also…. nuns! Just kidding, strippers but at different places (no turf wars going on in Orange County). The novelty wore off after a few days when I discovered all of them had major problems – and they had plenty, and they liked to talk about them, a lot. Especially to each other, they had an odd- support style ‘AA’ group going on. But the conversations always came back to their Dads. None of them had involved fathers; they all had some kind of ‘Daddy-Issue’ (not involved, didn’t care/no rules, worked way too much, dad ‘walked-out’) which to them was a HUGE reason why they were careless, dated ‘married old-guys’, lived the ‘life of the pole’, etc. They just didn’t care and they were either looking for a Sugar Daddy to save them or were getting back at their Fathers.
I hadn’t thought, or even talked, about that part of my life in years, but now (as a Dad of a girl) revisiting this completely freaks me out.
Do you realize how much influence a Dad has on his daughter? A whole freakin’ lot! If there’s anything that a Dad fears the most, it’s his daughter doing any of that. It just makes me sick, and more that likely every other father too.
Moms - don’t believe me? Ask your husband. I can bet he would much rather have his daughter say she were pregnant by the school janitor and moving to Chico than her working down at the “Star Kitty Club”.
I swear, I feel more and more like Tony Danza from that movie “She’s Out Of Control”.
On a happier note - I finally updated my Blogroll to the right. There were a few that needed to go (people who haven’t updated their Blog since last year.) And of course lots of additions of “cool peeps". If I forgot you and you link to me, shoot me an email or comment.